Having conflict? (Who isn't?) It's an unavoidable reality, unfortunately, and my own temptation is to analyze it to death so that I summarize how that person (usually my husband, because he's the one I interact with the most) caused it all. Terrible, I know. Antidote to that sort of self-protection? Gazing into the mirror of the Word.
Here's a list of lies that also helps unearth some of the foolishness we hide in our selves. It's a quick read, I promise.